Chan Legacy

One of my mummy friends had a ‘bitching’ day and blogged about it. (click here for the post)

My favorite excerpt from her post…

“So what’s the moral of the story?
Let this be a lesson to everyone including myself.
Just enjoy your grandchildren.
Just enjoy your nephews and nieces.
Just enjoy your friend’s children or a stranger’s children.
Enjoy them, play with them but know your boundaries.
Don’t offer unsolicited advices or even suggestions.
Don’t behave as though you love and care more for their children than they do or worse, behave like you know it all.
Even if you are an experienced parent, don’t try to parent other people’s kids. You’d just look like a meddlesome irritating busybody.
In short, just mind your own business. Let the parents take care of their own children!”

After reading it, I laughed and in my heart applauded her for having the boldness to blog about it….because from what I had experienced and reading the issues voiced by many of the mummies in the asiaparents forum, looks like we all face the same problems…

As much as I dislike receiving unsolicited advice, sometimes I find myself ‘commiting the crime’. Especially when it is a close friend having her 1st pregnancy.

Well, I guess it is because we went through the experience of having the 1st child..and then now the 2nd one, so along the way, through lots of trial and errors, we found some ‘tried and tested and found fantastic‘ methods and products that we would simply like to share, hoping that the new mummy do not have to go through the mistakes we had made.

On the other hand, it is those ‘mistakes’ that adds up to the fun of parenting.

So how?

Close one eye and let my friend/s ‘stumble and fall’? All in the hope that I do not tear off the cocoon in misplaced eagerness and she becomes a beautiful butterfly?

Looking forward, the next generation will feel the same about us too. I don’t think my future daughter-in-law or my daughter will want to ask me for my advice, even though I am sure I would like to give. *wink*

But on a serious note, I have received so much positive feedback on my blog. I have people telling me that they had learned alot on parenting, pregnancy etc from my blogging, which I am overwhelmingly glad.

So how to strike a balance?

Here’s what I am going to do.

I shall not offer unsolicited advice.

But…I am going to start blogging about the so called ‘tried and tested and found fantastic‘ products and methods, under the tag “parenting tips“.

It will serve to be my memory download box, as well as some references for whoever finds it useful!

Voila! Everyone lives happily ever after!