You have given me hope that it is possible to do without a help. Yes it is easier with a helper but it comes with problems: A ‘raw’ one is willing to learn but teaching her can make one vomit blood. An experienced one is usually smarter and easier to teach but she will give another set of problems…

I also agree that children behave better when there is no auntie around in the house.

Most moms here do it all on their own too without help too.

I think it does help that the older children are at school for some hours.

Although I only have two kids, I do understand how you feel about having lots of chores to do around the house.

Moms here get help in other ways. I have a dishwasher and most moms tell me they can’t do without one. And I have a weekly cleaner that comes to clean up the house fortnightly. Tingkat is one good way too but over here there isn’t anything like that and takeaways are expensive compared to SG.

Ralph is also a velcro baby and it does help to sling him (I don’t own a beco) when I go about doing my chores.

maybe i shld pluck up the courage to bring my 2 kids for their swimming lesson this sunday on my own, since my hubby is outstationed.
think i shld b able to handle them, since they are older than ur kids.

I’ve never really managed for an extended time without someone else cleaning my house (and dh does the ironing) so i’m in awe!

Well done!