After Del left, we had a hard time looking for a good helper.
We chose Marissa, she sounded ok with my family situation over the phone, so we engaged her. She came from PHI, worked for us for 4 days, and told me that she can’t work for me, that she can’t handle a household with 3 kids.
We had already paid for the agency fee, so had no choice but to take a replacement from them. But this agency only has transfer maids, all with local experience. So they were quite picky. Not many wanted to work with a family with 3 kids, what more, my room for the helper is small because it is the bomb shelter, which I had also made racking till the ceiling for storage, and they are picky about that…
Anyway, the agency sent Siskha to me, and said to let her help out at my place for 3 days. To see if she can handle as well as whether we liked her.
After 1-2 days, we were fine with her, and she with us, so we engaged her.
Initially was fine…
Oma starting to find fault with her. Saying that she swept the broom over Oma’s feet, not once, but twice. And being an old lady, she was fuming mad.
Then we went to Genting. During the car trip, Oma kept scolding her, I was wondering why? Oma said she kept stepping on her feet, or dropping things on her feet. I was thinking, maybe because of seating arrangements (Siskha and Oma sat facing each other), and also everyone was tired from long car trip. Anyway, that trip, major quarrel in the hotel room. Oma angry… Siskha crying… I’m frustrated cos if we change maid, I will be black mark again (cos we can only change 4 maids within 1 year or something right?)
Anyway, all settled again, and Siskha continued to work for us. She has 2 offs a month. When she went for her 1st off, her dressing shocked me! Her skirt was so short that I could almost see her panty! But hubby said that how she dressed on her off day is up to her. But I told her anyway, not to control her, but to tell her to be careful as men outside will think otherwise when they see her dressing like that.
Then she started to dress very prudently on her off day. But I noticed that she was always wearing the same clothes! So I asked to see her bag when she came back, and sure enough, she brought the usual sexy clothes out to change. I didn’t like that deception. I told her that I just need her to be careful, she didn’t need to deceive me like that. So she went back to her sexy dressing with thick eye liner.
Then she brought up to me that our family’s workload is a lot and she wants every week off. We negotiated and settled at alternate week off. Her reach home time was 10pm.
But she started to test our limits. She was late almost every time. Each time, she would sms me, nearly at 10pm, that she couldn’t get a cab, will be late etc. Final straw, one time, she came back so late, that it was almost midnight, and she was DRUNK! Reeking of liquor. She said that our work load is too much.. blar blar blar, want to transfer… Hubby was fuming mad, because we were both sick that day, but were forced to stay up till midnight to wait for her to come home!
Wanted to send her back… next few days, she came to us, crying for us to keep her.. say that it costs her too much to transfer… blah blah blah..
So ok, we brought forward her come home time to 8pm, told her that she needed to earn our trust again to shift back the come home time. For 1 time, she did, came back at 730pm and hid in the room the entire time, so scared that we will ask her to do anything!
The next time, she thought she was allowed to come back late again, gave me all the sms bull shit and came back past 10pm again. Then we decided that we had enough. She is going home.
Even that… she was ding-donging. Want to go home? Want to go agency? Want to go batam? As I had already given her an extra month salary to send home to her mother, so I had no choice but to keep her till that 1 month is paid up, and we bought a tix to jakarta and sent her home.
The day that she was to leave, she was still trying.. she was hinting and hinting, telling the kids, within our hearing distance, that whether she can come back and work for us or not? etc? We just plain ignored her.
I must say, not good bye, more like good riddance. If you are sincerely here to work for your family, then work! To be sent home, for what reason? Not being able to be punctual for come home time, stupid right?
Anyway, before we sent her home, I went to another agency (even though I was still covered under her agency to get a replacement maid, but I didn’t wnat another transfer maid) and engaged another one. This one, Angelita, had 9 years experience in HKG, and would be ready for me to bring her home this afternoon. Let’s hope that one will work out…
Apparently after she left, I heard many “applause”, for one, Donald’s tuition teacher heard her conversation with Oma and didn’t like her attitude. My parents see her as a two-faced person, goody two shoes in front of me, and another face behind me. Well, old people have a way of looking and judging people right?
